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如今的家长,对孩子的教育格外重视,但有个现象不容忽视,就是有的家长只要认同某种家教观念,就拿自己的孩子做实验,并在有意无意间走向极端。早几年赏识教育流行,很多家长视若法宝,动不动就对孩子竖大拇指,不管孩子做了什么,都不吝溢美之词:“你真棒!”“你是最棒的!”好像孩子真是“天下第一”。类似的还有挫折教育。独生子女大都娇生惯养,心理脆弱,于是有的家长便对孩子大搞挫折教育——大款装穷者有之,做“鹰爸”“狼爸”者有之,只为一个目的:让孩子经历挫折。生活原本是多彩的,有赞许有批评,有逆境有顺境,有失败有成功……刻意以一种家教观念“套”孩子并走向极端,无异于把孩子当成实验品,孩子的生活环境变得极不真实,一旦离开这个环境就会无所适从。不少家教专家已经意识到极端教育的危害性,呼吁赏识有节,“挫折”有度,告诫人们,走极端只会害了孩子。正在对孩子实施极端家教的父母们,是否也该反思、警醒了呢?
Parents nowadays pay special attention to their children’s education. However, there is a phenomenon that can not be ignored. Some parents just experiment with their own children as long as they agree with certain kinds of tutoring concepts and try to reach the extreme intentionally or unintentionally. A few years ago to appreciate the popularity of education, many parents as a magic weapon, always on the thumbs up, no matter what children do, are generous words: “You’re awesome! ” “You are the best! ”It looks like the child is really the best in the world.“ There is a similar setback education. Most of the only children are spoiled, mentally fragile, so some parents will engage in frustration education of their children - the big ones with the poor there, do ”Eagle Daddy“, ”Wolf“ who, for one purpose Let children experience setbacks. Life is originally colorful, there are praise and criticism, there are good times in the face of adversity, there is failure to succeed ... deliberately with a tacit awareness ”sets " the child and to the extreme, is tantamount to using the child as a test article, the child’s life The environment becomes extremely unreal, and you feel overwhelmed when you leave the environment. Many tutoring experts have realized the dangers of extreme education and called for appreciation and restraint. They warned people that extremes will only harm their children. Parents who are experiencing extreme tutoring with their children should also reflect on and wake up?