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每个人生活在社会上,都有安慰别人和需要人安慰的时刻。安慰,是感情的赠予,是沟通人际间相互理解、相互得到抚慰的方式。但如何安慰的得体也不是件容易事。首先,要摸透被安慰者特定的苦闷“障碍”,确切把握被安慰者的心理状态,忧在何处,烦从何来。安慰是一帖不是药的“药”,要想取得效果需要有的放矢。客套话固然可以充当安慰语,但没有实质性的效应。比如,一位大龄小伙子,在恋爱上很不幸,由此他产生了“没有一个姑娘是好人”的绝对化念头,内心一时极度痛苦,饭茶不香,准备这辈子
Everyone living in the community, there are comforting others and the need for comfort. Consolation is a gift of affection and is a way of communicating mutual understanding and mutual comfort. But how to comfort the body is not an easy task. First of all, we must thoroughly understand the comforter was depressed by the “obstacles”, the exact grasp of the psychological state of the comforter, where worry and trouble from where. Consumption is not a post medicine is a “medicine”, in order to obtain results need to be targeted. Polite, of course, can be a comforting word, but without any substantial effect. For example, a young man who is very unhappy in love, which led him to have the absolute idea of “no girl is a good person”, was extremely painful in his heart, his tea was not fragrant and prepared for his life