请让孩子大声说

• 作 者: 王雷
• 出 处: 师道
• 发表日期: 2002年09期
• 关键词: 沉默是金 公众场合 招惹是非 怕得罪人 言多必失 胸有城府 老实话 生存策略 学生交际能力 心里明白

中国人不喜欢说话,尤其不习惯于在公众场合说话。“不喜欢说话”的意思实际上是不想说、不敢说以至于不会说。为什么不说?其原因无非是出于一种卑怯的心理,怕贻人口实,怕招惹是非,怕得罪人,怕负责任,所谓祸从口出,言多必失,沉默是金等等,都在告诫人们少说为妙。所谓“不说”,不是真的不说,而是不说真的,也就是不说心里话,不说实在话。中国人有句口头禅,叫做“说句心里话”或“说句

Chinese do not like to talk, especially not accustomed to speaking in public. The meaning of “dislike to talk” is actually not to say, afraid to say so much as not to say. Why not? The reason is nothing more than out of a cowardly psychology, afraid of Yi people mouthpiece, afraid to provoke right and wrong, afraid of offenders, afraid of responsibility, so-called curse from mouth, words will lose, silence is gold and so on, Are warned people speak less wonderful. The so-called “do not say,” do not really do not say, but not truth, that is, do not say the truth, do not tell the truth. Chinese people have a mantra, called “truth” or “say.”