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男人喜欢什么样的女人,对女人来说,一直是个谜。从过去到现在,不乏探究者。张爱玲告诉我们:男人喜欢的注定是他娶不到的那一种。“也许每一个男子都有过这样的两个女人,至少两个。娶了红玫瑰,久而久之,红的变了墙上的一抹蚊子血,白的还是窗前明月光;娶了白玫瑰,白的便是衣服上的一粒饭粘子,红的却是心口上的一颗朱砂痣。”《纽约时报》单身“三高女”专栏作家莫琳·多德则写了篇拿男人开涮的文章,开篇第一句就是“女人想嫁一个对话伙伴,但是男人只想娶个妈。”“妈”的意义很丰富,样样替他料理周到,还无需他挖空心思地奉上甜言蜜语。换言之,男人喜欢无条件地爱他,跟随他的女人。两位名女人,一位感情坎坷,一位单身,不约而同地在话里透出些对男人的“抱怨”。这抱怨既来自她们的感情经验,又难免成为了她们的感情障碍。越聪明越探究,越觉得男人不可靠很自私,于是越迷茫。时至今日,更多的女人索性不再探究:为什么要为男人而活?活出自我,才是精彩。她们相信独立、聪明、能干、漂亮、自信就会有人爱。然而,光鲜亮丽之时,“盛女”变成了“剩女”。相亲舞台上,女人自信满满地说:我最适合你。男人却抱歉地上前灭了灯。到底哪里出了错?两情相悦本是最自然不过,如今却变得如此艰难。原因其实很简单,正如《男人来自火星女人来自金星》书中所说,男人女人原本很相爱,当有一天他们忘记了彼此来自不同的星球,于是开始了争吵。面对差异,理解差异,男人和女人才能在感情上实现有效的沟通与和解。而在此之前,首先要做的便是了解差异。男人喜欢什么样的女人,不妨听听男人怎么说,看看他心目中的女人是不是你心中的那个自我。也请男人看看女人内心有怎样一个自我……
What kind of woman like a woman, for a woman, has always been a mystery. From the past to the present, there is no shortage of investigators. Eileen Chang tells us: a man’s favorite doomed to be that he can not marry. “Maybe every man has had such two women, at least two.Red a red rose, with the passage of time, the red changed the wall of mosquito blood, white or moonlight in front of the window; married a white rose, White is a rice sticky on clothes, red is a cinnabar on the heart. ”“ New York Times single ”three tall women “ columnist Maureen Dodd wrote articles Take a man to open the article, the first sentence is ”Women want to marry a dialogue partner, but men just want to marry a mom. “ ”Mom “ is very rich in meaning, everything for him thoughtful, but also without him Culpacity to offer sweet talk. In other words, a man likes to love him unconditionally and follow his woman. Two famous women, a bumpy relationship, a single, spontaneously in the words revealed some of the men ”complain “. This complaint comes not only from their emotional experience, but also inevitably become their emotional barriers. The smarter the more to explore, the more men feel unreliable selfish, so the more confused. Today, more women simply no longer explore: Why live for men? Live themselves, is wonderful. They believe in independence, smart, capable, beautiful, confident people will love. However, when bright and beautiful, ”Shengnv “ became ”left woman ". Blind date stage, a woman confidently said: I am the most suitable for you. Men are sorry to go out on the lights. In the end what went wrong? Mutual affection It is the most natural However, it has become so difficult. The reason is very simple. Just as the book Men of Mars from Venus says, men and women used to love each other. When one day they forgot each other from different planets, they started a quarrel. In the face of differences and understanding of differences, men and women can achieve effective communication and reconciliation emotionally. Before that, the first thing to do is to understand the differences. Men like what kind of woman, may wish to hear a man how to say, look at his mind is not the woman in your heart that self. Also ask a man to see how a woman’s inner self ...