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1987年7月11日，地球人口突破50亿。为纪念这个特殊的日子，联合国于1990决定将每年7月11日定为“世界人口日”，以唤起人们对人口问题的关注。据此，1990年7月11日遂成为第一个“世界人口日”，而本年度的7月11日便是第24个“世界人口日”。根据联合国人口基金会研究决定，此次人口日的主题最终确定为“青年少女怀孕”，以呼吁人们重视越发频繁的少女怀孕以及随之衍生的未婚妈妈现象。
As a consequence of feeling helplessness or driven by mothers’ love， some of the pregnant young girls choose to give birth to their babies. Without legal marriage， quite a lot of such girls became unwed mothers. Although they are blamed by the moral society， the group of unwed mothers， including adolescent mothers， is expanding in recent years. For example， according to a research， China has quite a few unwed mothers of different ages living in every city and sector. As mothers， they are trying to take the burden to be responsible for their babies and themselves. However， as they are facing Hukou and education problems of their children plus huge pressure both economically and mentally， most of them are or were in confusion.
未婚怀孕少女中的一部分，或因手足无措，或因母爱涌动，最终选择了生下孩子。但因为没有合法的婚姻手续，她们中的不少人，最后都成了年轻的“未婚妈妈”。虽然备受道德责难，但是近些年来，包括“少女母亲”在内，未婚妈妈群体还是在日益扩大。以中国为例，经调查了解，中国的各个城市，各个行业，各个年龄段都分布着为数不少的未婚妈妈。为履行母亲的职责，这些妈妈们正试图以自己柔弱的肩膀，为小生命和自己的生存负责。不过，因为孩子落户、上学困难，以及经济和精神上的巨大压力，她们中的绝大多数，曾经或正在对前路感到迷茫。
A Secretly Increasing Group
in China
中国：隐秘增长的群体
So far there is no official statistics about the total number of unwed mothers in China. More unwed mothers choose to hide in the crowd and take care of their babies all alone. Compare to the unrealistic way of seeking legal and economic assistance from related institutions， the virtual cyber world can provide them with a platform to share and find comfort.
Baidu， the largest Chinese searching engine in the world， has an exclusive post bar for unwed mothers， which has established membership with 5，097 people and the posts have reached 205，505 by now. If you enter “unwed mother” in Tianya， which is another influential forum community in mainland China， you can also find more than 170 thousand relative posts. Our reporter joined four QQ chat groups of unwed mothers， which were posted on baidu post bars and Tianya community， and found that the members in just four groups were over 1500.
截至目前，有关中国“未婚妈妈”的总体数量，尚无机构或部门有过权威统计。更多的未婚妈妈选择隐没于人群中，独自为孩子寻找生存的方向。相比于去相关机构争取法律和经济援助的不切实际，网络世界的虚拟平台更能让未婚妈妈们寻找到情感慰藉。
在全球最大的中文搜索引擎——百度上，能够找到专属于未婚妈妈的贴吧，截至目前，贴吧中仅会员数目就达到了5，097人，总发帖量205，505个。在中国大陆另一个有重要影响力的论坛社区——天涯，输入关键字“未婚妈妈”也可以搜索到不少于17万的帖子。根据百度贴吧和天涯社区提供的qq号码，记者先后加入了4个未婚妈妈QQ群，经统计，仅4个群的人数相加就超过1500人。
Yiyi， a manager of the baidu unwed mother post bar， has managed the bar for three years. The deepest feeling she feels is that the group of unwed mother is expanding. “We have minors， college students， white collars and the ‘third persons’. They are in different conditions but the number is increasing，” said Yiyi. In the virtue world， unwed mothers use QQ groups， post bars or forums to communicate， hoping to find comfort from each other. When our reporter joined the QQ group for unwed mother， she found that a simple greeting of ‘Hello’ could receive a lot of responses. ‘How old is your child？’， ‘Have your child got Hukou’， ‘Does the child’s father pay for the maintenance？ ’……Such questions and posts catch the highest attention in post bars and forums. In order to evade misunderstandings and contempt in society， they choose there to share their experience， suffering， happiness and present difficulties， help new comers with their problems and cheer mothers in the same situation.
依依是百度未婚妈妈贴吧的吧主，管理贴吧3年，依依的最大感触是，未婚妈妈的群体在不断扩大，“她们中有未成年人，有大学生，有白领，也有人们常说的第三者，情况不同，但总体感觉人数在增多”。
在虚拟世界，未婚妈妈们通过QQ群、贴吧、论坛等彼此连结，抱团取暖。在加入未婚妈妈QQ群时，“大家好”这一句简单的问候语便会引来很多回应，“你宝宝多大？”“上户口了吗？”“宝爸给孩子抚养费吗？”……这些问题也成为了贴吧、论坛里受关注度最高的帖子与话题。为了逃避社会上的不理解和鄙夷，她们选择在这里分享着各自的情感经历、痛苦、喜悦以及目前所面临的难题，过来人为新人支招，同样处境的为对方打气。
Unwed Mothers Are Booming in USA
美国：未婚妈妈大军加剧
In USA， people used to call illegitimate children bastards. But now people begin to treat this phenomenon as a common thing. According to New York Times， the ratio of illegitimate children in USA has exceeded a threshold： two in three of babies born by women under 30 years old are illegitimate children. In the past， most illegitimate children used to come from poor families or minorities according to the investigation of “Trend of Children” by an institution in Washington. But in recent 20 years， the fastest-growing group of unwed mothers is white women in their 20s.
According to the report of “Trend of Children”， in USA， 93% of women who have received college education have babies after marriage； while the proportion for women who have secondary education is 62% and women who have only gone to high school or below is 43%. As a consequence， Frank Fustenberg， a socialist of University of Pennsylvania in USA， pointed out： “Marriage has become a luxurious good thing”.
在美国，过去人们往往把非婚生育称为私生子，而现在，人们则以新的眼光把它看成平常之事。据《纽约时报》报道，美国非婚生孩子的比例已经越过了一个门槛：目前美国30岁以下女性所生的孩子中，三分之二属于非婚生育。华盛顿研究机构“儿童趋势”的调查显示，以往非婚生育的女子大多集中在贫穷或者少数族裔人群。但是最近20年来，非婚女子生育的人群增长最快的是20岁左右的白人女子。
根据“儿童趋势”的报告，在美国，受过大学教育的女性中，有93%先结婚再生孩子，而受过中等教育的女性中，62%结婚后生子，持高中文凭或以下的女性，43%结婚后生子。对此，美国宾夕法尼亚州大学的社会学家弗兰克·弗斯腾伯格指出：“婚姻已经成为一种奢侈的好东西。”
The difference between unwed mothers in China and USA is that the Chinese mothers can not get married while American mothers have more chance to marry but refuse. In USA， almost all illegitimate births happened between cohabitating couples， who may keep such relationship as long as a marriage and regard marriage as a natural thing not a purposeful behavior. Even though women are experiencing illegitimate birth， they do not think they should marry someone to avoid embarrassment.
Theresa Fragoso， a 25-year-old single mother， has never thought marriage is the solution to illegitimate birth since the minute she found she was pregnant. “Woman used to live upon men， but now we don’t need their help any longer. We can make a living all by ourselves and raise our children at the same time.”
相较于中国未婚妈妈意外怀孕，但又无法履行婚姻的情况，而今美国的未婚妈妈们则更多的是有机会结婚，却最终选择了放弃。在美国，非婚生育几乎都发生在同居的男女中间，这种非婚关系持续的时间，可能与婚姻一样长，同居男女们视婚姻为某种顺其自然的事，而不是去刻意追求。即使是在非婚生育的情况下，女性也不会认为自己该结婚以避免难堪。
25岁的特丽萨·弗拉戈索是一个单身母亲，在其发现自己怀孕的那刻起，就没有想过用结婚来解决未婚生育问题。“以前，女人要靠男人生活，可是现在我们不再需要了。我们自己养活自己，同时抚养我们的孩子。”
As to such phenomenon， researchers say that even though many Americans are holding back from marriage， in fact it is a better demonstration that they want more from it and to get more emotional satisfaction， not merely being supported economically.
对于上述现象，研究人员认为，虽然许多美国人从婚姻中退缩，但这实际上更能体现出，他们期望从中得到更多的回报，获得感情上的满足，而不仅仅是提供实际的资助而已。
As a consequence of feeling helplessness or driven by mothers’ love， some of the pregnant young girls choose to give birth to their babies. Without legal marriage， quite a lot of such girls became unwed mothers. Although they are blamed by the moral society， the group of unwed mothers， including adolescent mothers， is expanding in recent years. For example， according to a research， China has quite a few unwed mothers of different ages living in every city and sector. As mothers， they are trying to take the burden to be responsible for their babies and themselves. However， as they are facing Hukou and education problems of their children plus huge pressure both economically and mentally， most of them are or were in confusion.
未婚怀孕少女中的一部分，或因手足无措，或因母爱涌动，最终选择了生下孩子。但因为没有合法的婚姻手续，她们中的不少人，最后都成了年轻的“未婚妈妈”。虽然备受道德责难，但是近些年来，包括“少女母亲”在内，未婚妈妈群体还是在日益扩大。以中国为例，经调查了解，中国的各个城市，各个行业，各个年龄段都分布着为数不少的未婚妈妈。为履行母亲的职责，这些妈妈们正试图以自己柔弱的肩膀，为小生命和自己的生存负责。不过，因为孩子落户、上学困难，以及经济和精神上的巨大压力，她们中的绝大多数，曾经或正在对前路感到迷茫。
A Secretly Increasing Group
in China
中国：隐秘增长的群体
So far there is no official statistics about the total number of unwed mothers in China. More unwed mothers choose to hide in the crowd and take care of their babies all alone. Compare to the unrealistic way of seeking legal and economic assistance from related institutions， the virtual cyber world can provide them with a platform to share and find comfort.
Baidu， the largest Chinese searching engine in the world， has an exclusive post bar for unwed mothers， which has established membership with 5，097 people and the posts have reached 205，505 by now. If you enter “unwed mother” in Tianya， which is another influential forum community in mainland China， you can also find more than 170 thousand relative posts. Our reporter joined four QQ chat groups of unwed mothers， which were posted on baidu post bars and Tianya community， and found that the members in just four groups were over 1500.
截至目前，有关中国“未婚妈妈”的总体数量，尚无机构或部门有过权威统计。更多的未婚妈妈选择隐没于人群中，独自为孩子寻找生存的方向。相比于去相关机构争取法律和经济援助的不切实际，网络世界的虚拟平台更能让未婚妈妈们寻找到情感慰藉。
在全球最大的中文搜索引擎——百度上，能够找到专属于未婚妈妈的贴吧，截至目前，贴吧中仅会员数目就达到了5，097人，总发帖量205，505个。在中国大陆另一个有重要影响力的论坛社区——天涯，输入关键字“未婚妈妈”也可以搜索到不少于17万的帖子。根据百度贴吧和天涯社区提供的qq号码，记者先后加入了4个未婚妈妈QQ群，经统计，仅4个群的人数相加就超过1500人。
Yiyi， a manager of the baidu unwed mother post bar， has managed the bar for three years. The deepest feeling she feels is that the group of unwed mother is expanding. “We have minors， college students， white collars and the ‘third persons’. They are in different conditions but the number is increasing，” said Yiyi. In the virtue world， unwed mothers use QQ groups， post bars or forums to communicate， hoping to find comfort from each other. When our reporter joined the QQ group for unwed mother， she found that a simple greeting of ‘Hello’ could receive a lot of responses. ‘How old is your child？’， ‘Have your child got Hukou’， ‘Does the child’s father pay for the maintenance？ ’……Such questions and posts catch the highest attention in post bars and forums. In order to evade misunderstandings and contempt in society， they choose there to share their experience， suffering， happiness and present difficulties， help new comers with their problems and cheer mothers in the same situation.
依依是百度未婚妈妈贴吧的吧主，管理贴吧3年，依依的最大感触是，未婚妈妈的群体在不断扩大，“她们中有未成年人，有大学生，有白领，也有人们常说的第三者，情况不同，但总体感觉人数在增多”。
在虚拟世界，未婚妈妈们通过QQ群、贴吧、论坛等彼此连结，抱团取暖。在加入未婚妈妈QQ群时，“大家好”这一句简单的问候语便会引来很多回应，“你宝宝多大？”“上户口了吗？”“宝爸给孩子抚养费吗？”……这些问题也成为了贴吧、论坛里受关注度最高的帖子与话题。为了逃避社会上的不理解和鄙夷，她们选择在这里分享着各自的情感经历、痛苦、喜悦以及目前所面临的难题，过来人为新人支招，同样处境的为对方打气。
Unwed Mothers Are Booming in USA
美国：未婚妈妈大军加剧
In USA， people used to call illegitimate children bastards. But now people begin to treat this phenomenon as a common thing. According to New York Times， the ratio of illegitimate children in USA has exceeded a threshold： two in three of babies born by women under 30 years old are illegitimate children. In the past， most illegitimate children used to come from poor families or minorities according to the investigation of “Trend of Children” by an institution in Washington. But in recent 20 years， the fastest-growing group of unwed mothers is white women in their 20s.
According to the report of “Trend of Children”， in USA， 93% of women who have received college education have babies after marriage； while the proportion for women who have secondary education is 62% and women who have only gone to high school or below is 43%. As a consequence， Frank Fustenberg， a socialist of University of Pennsylvania in USA， pointed out： “Marriage has become a luxurious good thing”.
在美国，过去人们往往把非婚生育称为私生子，而现在，人们则以新的眼光把它看成平常之事。据《纽约时报》报道，美国非婚生孩子的比例已经越过了一个门槛：目前美国30岁以下女性所生的孩子中，三分之二属于非婚生育。华盛顿研究机构“儿童趋势”的调查显示，以往非婚生育的女子大多集中在贫穷或者少数族裔人群。但是最近20年来，非婚女子生育的人群增长最快的是20岁左右的白人女子。
根据“儿童趋势”的报告，在美国，受过大学教育的女性中，有93%先结婚再生孩子，而受过中等教育的女性中，62%结婚后生子，持高中文凭或以下的女性，43%结婚后生子。对此，美国宾夕法尼亚州大学的社会学家弗兰克·弗斯腾伯格指出：“婚姻已经成为一种奢侈的好东西。”
The difference between unwed mothers in China and USA is that the Chinese mothers can not get married while American mothers have more chance to marry but refuse. In USA， almost all illegitimate births happened between cohabitating couples， who may keep such relationship as long as a marriage and regard marriage as a natural thing not a purposeful behavior. Even though women are experiencing illegitimate birth， they do not think they should marry someone to avoid embarrassment.
Theresa Fragoso， a 25-year-old single mother， has never thought marriage is the solution to illegitimate birth since the minute she found she was pregnant. “Woman used to live upon men， but now we don’t need their help any longer. We can make a living all by ourselves and raise our children at the same time.”
相较于中国未婚妈妈意外怀孕，但又无法履行婚姻的情况，而今美国的未婚妈妈们则更多的是有机会结婚，却最终选择了放弃。在美国，非婚生育几乎都发生在同居的男女中间，这种非婚关系持续的时间，可能与婚姻一样长，同居男女们视婚姻为某种顺其自然的事，而不是去刻意追求。即使是在非婚生育的情况下，女性也不会认为自己该结婚以避免难堪。
25岁的特丽萨·弗拉戈索是一个单身母亲，在其发现自己怀孕的那刻起，就没有想过用结婚来解决未婚生育问题。“以前，女人要靠男人生活，可是现在我们不再需要了。我们自己养活自己，同时抚养我们的孩子。”
As to such phenomenon， researchers say that even though many Americans are holding back from marriage， in fact it is a better demonstration that they want more from it and to get more emotional satisfaction， not merely being supported economically.
对于上述现象，研究人员认为，虽然许多美国人从婚姻中退缩，但这实际上更能体现出，他们期望从中得到更多的回报，获得感情上的满足，而不仅仅是提供实际的资助而已。