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有这样一位初中生,期末考试得了坏成绩,父母将其责打一顿,并勒令他下学期必须努力进入前五名。第二个学期他努力了,但其成绩在班里只是中游水平,其父亲又大发雷霆。这孩子没有说什么,只是默默地听着,但以后的学习成绩却又下降了,又成为差生。以后无论怎样责骂殴打,孩子都无动于衷,毫无起色。父母为此伤透了脑筋。为什么这个学生会出现上述情况呢?这是因为其父母教育方法不当,使弦子学会了“无能为力”。 “无能为力”是那些在其父母或教师采用惩罚手段的孩子身上经常出现的一种情况。它的实质是孩子不相信用自己的行动能改变自己的困难处境,或者说对改变自己的困难处境丧失信心。
There is such a junior high school students, the final exams have been bad grades, parents blame them, and ordered him to work hard next semester into the top five. The second semester he worked hard, but his grade in the class is only the middle reaches, his father was furious. The child did not say anything, just listened silently, but later grades fell again and became poor students. After no matter how scolded assault, children are indifferent, no improvement. Parents broke their brains for this. Why did this student appear in the above situation? This is because his parents did not educate themselves in such a way that they learned “helplessness.” “Powerless ” is one that often occurs in children whose parents or teachers use punitive means. Its essence is that children do not believe their own actions can change their difficult situation, or to change their own difficulties in the situation of loss of confidence.