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世界上没有不犯错误的人,大人尚且如此,何况孩子!在孩子身上寄托太多的希望,让孩子去完成自己没有完成的事业、达到自己未曾达到的目标,这是为人父母者相当普遍的想法。父母希望孩子聪明,希望孩子完美,希望孩子出人头地,这些想法或许不错,但是否实际?若先在自己心里形成过高的奢望和巨大的压力,再看待一个普通的孩子,难免将不足处放大,那便越发觉得孩子不可救药了。即使孩子真的犯了错误,也没有什么大不了的。如10岁的孩子丢了书包,其危害性他不会不知道,面对即将降临的家长和老师的责难,又担心逃不过一顿暴打,自己已经胆战心惊,再横加指责岂不造成更大压力?高压之下,孩子的心理容易发生畸变,而心理的修复远比买一个书包要来得难。教育是一门艺术,动辄拳脚相向是无能的表现。
There are no mistakes in the world, adults, and so, let alone children! Too much hope in children, let the children to complete their unfinished business, to achieve their unmet goals, which is a very common idea for parents . Parents hope their children are clever, hope their children will be perfect and they hope their children will succeed. These ideas may be good, but is it not true? If we first form an excessive expectation and enormous pressure in our own heart, then looking at an ordinary child will inevitably enlarge the problem, That more and more children feel hopeless. Even if the child really made a mistake, no big deal. If a 10-year-old kid loses his bag, he will not know the dangers. In the face of the censure of parents and teachers who are about to come, he is also worried that he can not escape a beat and he has been scared. Under high pressure, the child’s psychology prone to distortion, and psychological repair than to buy a bag to be difficult. Education is an art, at every turn fist is incompetent performance.