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心理学表明,惩罚也是调动孩子积极性的一种策略。惩罚作为一种外部动因,使用得当,可以使孩子明辨是非善恶,能使孩子对错误行为产生羞耻感和负疚感,把惩罚看作是前进的鞭策力和进步的新起点。而在现实生活中,不少家长使用惩罚不当,简单粗暴的惩罚对孩子有百害而无一益。 有些家长信奉“棍棒底下出孝子”“孩子都是贱骨头,不打不成才”的旧训,孩子不听话或犯了错,不问青红皂白,动辄对孩子破口大骂或拳脚相加。有些家长片面理解“玉不琢,不成器;子不教,
Psychology shows that punishment is also a strategy to mobilize the enthusiasm of children. Punishment as an external motivation, properly used, can make children distinguish between non-good and evil, can make children feel shame and guilty of wrongdoing, and punish punishment as a new starting point for progress and promotion. In real life, many parents use improper punishment, simple and crude punishment of harm to their children without benefit. Some parents believe in the old training of “filial sons under the clubs” and “children are cheap but not bad”. The children disobedient or made mistakes, ignoring indiscriminate and often infuriated children and punched or fisted feet. Some parents understand one-sidedly that "jade is not cut, not a device; son does not teach,