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一、谬赞与挑剔父母为鼓励子女,事无巨细都大加赞赏,有时反而会弄巧成拙。心理治疗师詹姆斯·温德尔说:“惯于受父母称赞的孩子,做事往往不是为了让自己满意,而是为了博得别人的赞赏。”这类孩子即使做日常家务也期望别人称赞,没人赞赏似乎就难以把事情做好。过分挑剔也是有害无益的。温德尔说:“光是指责孩子怎样不对,也许只会导致孩子不断犯错。”赞赏和管教的比例应为3:1。比例过高,赞赏就显得虚伪;比例太低,则显得挑剔
First, absurd praise and picky parents To encourage children, everything is greatly appreciated, sometimes it will self-defeating. Psychotherapist James Wendell said: “Children accustomed to being praised by their parents often do things not to satisfy themselves, but to win the praise of others.” Such children expect others to praise even their daily housework and no one appreciates It seems difficult to get things done. Too critical is harmful. Wendell said: “just to blame the child how wrong, may only lead to children continue to make mistakes.” Appreciation and discipline should be 3: 1. The proportion is too high, appreciation is hypocritical; the proportion is too low, it is critical