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和孩子谈话是一门独特的艺术,有其自身的法则。孩子们表达意见很少是直来直去的,他们的目的总是隐藏在一种暗语之后,只有透过暗语,才能弄明白孩子的真正意图。十岁的安迪问自己的父亲,在哈莱姆区有多少孤儿?父亲是搞化学的,看到儿子对社会问题发生兴趣,心中有说不出的欣慰,他先作了长篇大论,然后才给出那个数据,但是安迪却并不满足,他仍然停留在原来的问题上,又继续问道,在纽约有多少孤儿呢?在美国呢?在欧洲呢?全世界呢?最后父亲明白了,使儿子不安的不是什么社会问题,而是他自己。他不是出于对孤儿的同情,而是害怕他自己也会被遗弃;他不是在研究孤儿人数的多少,而是在寻求永不被遗弃的新的保证。
Talking with children is a unique art with its own laws. Children’s opinions are seldom straightforward. Their purpose is always hidden behind an oxymoron, and only through the use of hex words can we understand the true intention of the child. Andy, a ten-year-old asked his father how many orphans were there in Harlem? His father was engaged in chemistry. When he saw his son’s interest in social issues, he could not help but feel relieved. He made a long story before Given that figure, but Andy was not satisfied, he was still stuck on the original question and went on to ask how many orphans were there in New York, in the United States, in Europe, in the world, in the end, It is no social problem that makes his son restless, but himself. He is not out of sympathy for the orphan, but fears that he himself will be abandoned; he is not studying the number of orphans, but rather seeking new assurances never to be abandoned.