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on January 11， a lavish group wedding was held in a kindergarten in central china’s henan Province. surprisingly， the brides and bridegrooms participating in the ceremony were not teachers， but more than 100 preschoolers. dressed-up boys and girls walked down a red carpet to the Wedding March and said their vows. their parents were also present to witness the"wedding."
According to the kindergarten director， surnamed li， this was not the first time the kindergarten organized such a ceremony， but this was the largest in terms of scale. children who were "married" in previous“weddings” have tended to be more responsible and confident， and get along better with their peers， li said.
Public opinion is divided. some agree with li， saying that participating in a “wedding” is a good way for children to gain a sense of responsibility toward family and to learn what marriage is all about. supporters also add that such an event is also a good way to introduce sex education. however， those who object the practice doubt the supposed positive effects of mock weddings， maintaining that they only serve to ruin children’s naivety and innocence. they say weddings are for adults only.
Tian Shuiyuan Teacher
I think this kindergarten’s mock group wedding should be seen in a positive light.
As a matter of fact， children in kindergarten already know something about love and marriage from what they see on TV， and puppy love is not uncommon among kindergartners. However， young children’s knowledge of love and infatuation is shallow and childish. If they are not carefully guided by their parents and teachers while they are small， children will grow to have a twisted understanding of marriage. This mass “wedding” is actually a role-playing game that lets children experience what it’s like to get married， and helps foster the participants’ understanding of love and marriage. Worries about the consequences of such a game are unnecessary. Although I do not know any adults who participated in a mock wedding as children， we engaged in other forms of role-playing and games that benefited our growth. So as parents， we don’t have to make a fuss about this， but should stand by and watch our children have a chance to explore and write their own fairytales as they grow.
liang Jie China Education Daily
While role-playing helps develop a child’s intelligence and ability to maintain sound interpersonal rela- tions， I don’t think this mock wedding has many positive effects. I see no evidence that it fosters a sense of responsibility toward family or provides a healthy concept of marriage. No scientific research has proved that a game like this one is a good way to introduce sex education. Pre-school children are curious about marriage and adult life. Some may tell parents that they like someone and want to marry them， but they do not actually understand what love， marriage， responsibility and commitment truly mean. It is much better for parents to explain such things directly when bring children up. Holding a wedding will only further confuse children.
The mock group wedding is only a ceremony， with dressing up and decorations. It does not automatically teach children about love， marriage， and responsibility. Also， the rigid and adult-like format used by the school does not let children use their imaginations.
Xie Weifeng Rednet.cn
I think it is an inspired choice to educate children by holding a mock wedding.
Taking part in a wedding teaches children to be loyal and responsible family members， and gives them a healthy concept of marriage. It also teaches children about gender roles. For example， it teaches them that boys will grow up to be fathers and that girls will become mothers.
Some worry that these weddings teach kids about sex too early， destroying their naivety and innocence. But in fact， sex education in China is lagging behind the rest of the world. For example， sex education has been a compulsory class in all UK elementary and secondary schools since 2011. Children over the age of five are taught about sex， and this has resulted in a dramatic decrease in teenage pregnancies.
However， sex education in China has always been dealt with awkwardly. While children are instinctively curious about sex， their teachers and parents regard it as taboo. Unfortunately， a lack of sex education breeds problems， including a higher number of abortions among teenage girls.
From news reports we know that the kindergarten’s children， parents and teachers all enjoyed the ceremony. It was not a meaningless show， but an educational event.
Ding Xiaoshan Zynews.com
In my opinion， this mock wedding is just a game and has nothing to do with sex education.
It will not have any negative influence on the children’s concept of marriage， but it will let children learn how to be a responsible spouse. Everyone is instinctively curious about love and marriage at the age of five or six. Teachers and parents should guide children’s curiosity， not suppress it.
What really influences children’s opinions on marriage and loyalty is parents’ words and deeds. This mock ceremony has nothing to do with sex. Children are innocent. If they hug or kiss， it is a natural expression of pure love and has nothing to do with sex. yan Baokun Father of a threeyear-old girl
Marriage is a serious matter. It is the most important and serious relationship that a grown-up male and female can have. And more importantly， marriage means being a responsible member of a family. While a group wedding held as a roleplay exercise for children may satisfy their curiosity about marriage， it may also violate the sanctity of the ceremony. Children may get the mistaken impression that weddings and marriage are neither serious nor sacred.
Spouses are supposed to be loyal to each other. Will the kindergarten commit to teaching this value by forbidding boys from playing with other girls after they “get married？” How can we be sure that the kids won’t imitate adults and be jealous of their spouses？ These potential negative consequences aside， I don’t see any evidence that children will learn adult gender roles from this mock wedding.
During pre-school education， children should be taught what love is and how to love. At that age， love is about friendship， not about marriage or relationships.
Deng haijian China Women’s News
I agree that sex education should be introduced during childhood. But I don’t think a mock wedding has any significant relation to sex education， even if it is carefully organized and witnessed by parents. It is only an event to make adults happy. When teaching children about sex， teachers and parents should be cautious and use appropriate methods. Children at different ages are supposed to learn different things. There is no need for adults to disturb a child’s cognitive development process.
Children are too young to understand affection or marriage. They interpret such concepts differently from adults. A "wedding" may lead children to be closer friends， but may also make it difficult for them to become friends with other children. And once the "couple" breaks up， the ensuing “divorce” will also leave a permanent scar on them.
Zheng yi People’s Daily
We can see that the children who were “married” in this “wedding” feel awkward about participating in such a grown-up ceremony. People should do certain things at a certain age. Early childhood education should also follow this rule. A child is like a blank sheet of paper. Any random color added by adults will have a strong impact on a child’s psyche. Everyone will eventually mature， but we can never reclaim our childhood innocence once it is gone.
There are appropriate ways and occasions for parents and teachers to tell children about sex， the meaning of love and the responsibilities of marriage. A mock group wedding is definitely not one of them. Pre-school education is not a game.
Unfortunately， many parents and teachers are not aware of this. Sometimes they push children into adulthood too early by organizing a child’s education from an adult point of view. Nowadays， you can often see children wearing garish makeup or bikinis on entertainment shows or at auto shows. Those children with their revealing clothing and pseudo adult image make people mourn the loss of childhood simplicity and innocence. Let children be children. Do not force adult behavior on them through education.
According to the kindergarten director， surnamed li， this was not the first time the kindergarten organized such a ceremony， but this was the largest in terms of scale. children who were "married" in previous“weddings” have tended to be more responsible and confident， and get along better with their peers， li said.
Public opinion is divided. some agree with li， saying that participating in a “wedding” is a good way for children to gain a sense of responsibility toward family and to learn what marriage is all about. supporters also add that such an event is also a good way to introduce sex education. however， those who object the practice doubt the supposed positive effects of mock weddings， maintaining that they only serve to ruin children’s naivety and innocence. they say weddings are for adults only.
Tian Shuiyuan Teacher
I think this kindergarten’s mock group wedding should be seen in a positive light.
As a matter of fact， children in kindergarten already know something about love and marriage from what they see on TV， and puppy love is not uncommon among kindergartners. However， young children’s knowledge of love and infatuation is shallow and childish. If they are not carefully guided by their parents and teachers while they are small， children will grow to have a twisted understanding of marriage. This mass “wedding” is actually a role-playing game that lets children experience what it’s like to get married， and helps foster the participants’ understanding of love and marriage. Worries about the consequences of such a game are unnecessary. Although I do not know any adults who participated in a mock wedding as children， we engaged in other forms of role-playing and games that benefited our growth. So as parents， we don’t have to make a fuss about this， but should stand by and watch our children have a chance to explore and write their own fairytales as they grow.
liang Jie China Education Daily
While role-playing helps develop a child’s intelligence and ability to maintain sound interpersonal rela- tions， I don’t think this mock wedding has many positive effects. I see no evidence that it fosters a sense of responsibility toward family or provides a healthy concept of marriage. No scientific research has proved that a game like this one is a good way to introduce sex education. Pre-school children are curious about marriage and adult life. Some may tell parents that they like someone and want to marry them， but they do not actually understand what love， marriage， responsibility and commitment truly mean. It is much better for parents to explain such things directly when bring children up. Holding a wedding will only further confuse children.
The mock group wedding is only a ceremony， with dressing up and decorations. It does not automatically teach children about love， marriage， and responsibility. Also， the rigid and adult-like format used by the school does not let children use their imaginations.
Xie Weifeng Rednet.cn
I think it is an inspired choice to educate children by holding a mock wedding.
Taking part in a wedding teaches children to be loyal and responsible family members， and gives them a healthy concept of marriage. It also teaches children about gender roles. For example， it teaches them that boys will grow up to be fathers and that girls will become mothers.
Some worry that these weddings teach kids about sex too early， destroying their naivety and innocence. But in fact， sex education in China is lagging behind the rest of the world. For example， sex education has been a compulsory class in all UK elementary and secondary schools since 2011. Children over the age of five are taught about sex， and this has resulted in a dramatic decrease in teenage pregnancies.
However， sex education in China has always been dealt with awkwardly. While children are instinctively curious about sex， their teachers and parents regard it as taboo. Unfortunately， a lack of sex education breeds problems， including a higher number of abortions among teenage girls.
From news reports we know that the kindergarten’s children， parents and teachers all enjoyed the ceremony. It was not a meaningless show， but an educational event.
Ding Xiaoshan Zynews.com
In my opinion， this mock wedding is just a game and has nothing to do with sex education.
It will not have any negative influence on the children’s concept of marriage， but it will let children learn how to be a responsible spouse. Everyone is instinctively curious about love and marriage at the age of five or six. Teachers and parents should guide children’s curiosity， not suppress it.
What really influences children’s opinions on marriage and loyalty is parents’ words and deeds. This mock ceremony has nothing to do with sex. Children are innocent. If they hug or kiss， it is a natural expression of pure love and has nothing to do with sex. yan Baokun Father of a threeyear-old girl
Marriage is a serious matter. It is the most important and serious relationship that a grown-up male and female can have. And more importantly， marriage means being a responsible member of a family. While a group wedding held as a roleplay exercise for children may satisfy their curiosity about marriage， it may also violate the sanctity of the ceremony. Children may get the mistaken impression that weddings and marriage are neither serious nor sacred.
Spouses are supposed to be loyal to each other. Will the kindergarten commit to teaching this value by forbidding boys from playing with other girls after they “get married？” How can we be sure that the kids won’t imitate adults and be jealous of their spouses？ These potential negative consequences aside， I don’t see any evidence that children will learn adult gender roles from this mock wedding.
During pre-school education， children should be taught what love is and how to love. At that age， love is about friendship， not about marriage or relationships.
Deng haijian China Women’s News
I agree that sex education should be introduced during childhood. But I don’t think a mock wedding has any significant relation to sex education， even if it is carefully organized and witnessed by parents. It is only an event to make adults happy. When teaching children about sex， teachers and parents should be cautious and use appropriate methods. Children at different ages are supposed to learn different things. There is no need for adults to disturb a child’s cognitive development process.
Children are too young to understand affection or marriage. They interpret such concepts differently from adults. A "wedding" may lead children to be closer friends， but may also make it difficult for them to become friends with other children. And once the "couple" breaks up， the ensuing “divorce” will also leave a permanent scar on them.
Zheng yi People’s Daily
We can see that the children who were “married” in this “wedding” feel awkward about participating in such a grown-up ceremony. People should do certain things at a certain age. Early childhood education should also follow this rule. A child is like a blank sheet of paper. Any random color added by adults will have a strong impact on a child’s psyche. Everyone will eventually mature， but we can never reclaim our childhood innocence once it is gone.
There are appropriate ways and occasions for parents and teachers to tell children about sex， the meaning of love and the responsibilities of marriage. A mock group wedding is definitely not one of them. Pre-school education is not a game.
Unfortunately， many parents and teachers are not aware of this. Sometimes they push children into adulthood too early by organizing a child’s education from an adult point of view. Nowadays， you can often see children wearing garish makeup or bikinis on entertainment shows or at auto shows. Those children with their revealing clothing and pseudo adult image make people mourn the loss of childhood simplicity and innocence. Let children be children. Do not force adult behavior on them through education.