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一、对方常赞同你的意见吗?在与人相处中,有一个“相似原则”。新相识时,人更喜欢与自己的兴趣、爱好、价值观相似的人相处。因为如果对方与自己的意见相似,会有一种“我是对的”的良好感觉。如果对方对你有高度好感的话,当你说出你对某事物的意见时,对方都会偏向同意你的观点;就算不同意,对方也会补充说你的意见也很有道理。如果对方时常与你意见不合的话,对你就应该没太多的好感度了。二、对方想了解你更多吗?可以试想象一下,当你与对方谈天,你开始说自己儿时有趣(或不太有趣)的经验时,如果对方很喜欢你,对方的反应会是:(a)问相关的问题,希望你继续说更多;(b)响应你,之后开始说自己的
First, the other side often agree with your opinion? In dealing with others, there is a “similar principle ”. New acquaintance, people prefer to get along with their own interests, hobbies, values similar people. Because if the other side and their own opinion is similar, there will be a “I am right ” good feeling. If the other party is highly interested in you, when you say what you think of something, the other side will tend to agree with your point of view; if you do not agree, each other will add that your opinion is also very reasonable. If the other side often disagree with you, you should not have too much of the degree of sensitivity. Second, the other party would like to know you more? You can imagine, when you talk to each other, you start to say that their childhood fun (or not very interesting) experience, if the other party like you, the other’s response will be: (a) ask related questions and hope you continue to say more; (b) respond to you and start to say your own