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心理学通常会认为,小时候表现越乖越懂事的孩子,长大之后心理问题越多。小时候表现得越叛逆越自由的孩子,长大之后往往心智越成熟。孩子听话真的是件好事吗?为什么越乖的孩子长大越痛苦?近几年来,随着小K慢慢进入青少年时期,有很多人问我:“你的孩子听话吗?”这让我真的不知道怎么回答。你说小K听话吧,事实上他那些乱七八糟的意见还挺多的,有时我让他往东,他偏往西,也常常反驳和颠覆我的看法,有时候还会“拿出证据”说得我哑口无言;可你说他不乖吧,比起大多数同龄的孩子,他可以自动自发把自己分内的事处理好,课业
Psychology usually thinks that when you are a child, the more behaved and sensible child, the more psychological problems you have when you grow up. The more rebellious a child behaves more freely, the more mature the child often grows up. Why children obedient really is a good thing? Why the more obedient children grow up more painful? In recent years, as K slowly into adolescence, many people asked me: “Your child obedient?” I really do not know how to answer. You say a small K obedient to it, in fact, his opinion of those messy quite a lot, and sometimes I let him east, he turned west, often refute and subvert my opinion, and sometimes “come up with evidence ”I am speechless; but you say he is not good, compared to most children of the same age, he can automatically take care of their own sub-matters, schoolwork