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问:我是个直脾气, 遇到不顺眼的事就直言相告,却常常因此闹得双方都不愉快,您说, 直率地指出别人的错误不对吗? 答:我想,您在指出别人不足的同时大概忽略了一个很重要的东西,即:受尊重是人的普遍心理需求,只有保存了自尊心的人才有能力要求进步,否则就会破罐破摔, 任你说什么也不在意。既然咱们指出别人的错误是为了帮助他改正,那么我们是不是首先要保护他的自尊心呢?! 我给您讲个真实的故事吧,在一所院校的炊事班里, 有位从农村来的新战友,因为从未接触过做饭,所以案上案下动作都不利索。班长呢,看着他的作派就起腻,再者也认为自己大小是个头儿,有权批评他,所以不论场合、地点、逮着他就教训一番,语言很不讲究。结果这位战士非但炊事技术没有提高,情绪也越来越糟糕,一天到晚一声不吭,终于在一次偶然的机会中,他向班长发泄了满腔
Q: I am a straightforward temper. When I meet an unpleasant person, I tell you in a straightforward manner. However, I often feel unpleasant when both parties are disturbed. You say bluntly that others are wrong? A: I think you are pointing out that others are not enough At the same time, it probably overlooks a very important thing: that being respected is a universal psychological requirement of people. Only those who save their self-esteem have the ability to ask for progress. Otherwise, they will break their cans and break whatever they say or do not care about. Since we pointed out that someone else's mistake is to help him correct, then we are not the first to protect his self-esteem it! I tell you a true story, in a college cooking class, a came from rural areas Of the new comrades, because never touched cooking, so the case is not agitated. Monitor squad, watching his work from tired, and also think that their own size is a head, the right to criticize him, so regardless of the occasion, the place, caught him a lesson, the language is very particular about. The result of this soldier not only did not improve cooking techniques, emotions are getting worse, all day long silent, and finally by chance, he gave vent to the monitor