请您多用“爱的语言”

• 作 者: 钱星博
• 出 处: 父母必读
• 发表日期: 1988年10期
• 关键词: 不知道 两代人 对抗情绪 生日礼物 告诉我 校门口 巧克力布丁 外祖父母 为了爱 奶油蛋糕

有些父母亲习惯用比较严厉的口吻去训斥孩子,这种口吻使孩子感到自卑和不愉快,并与大人产生对抗情绪。他们不知道自己每天对孩子说话时所用的字眼影响有多大,只管恣意对孩子嚷叫,根本没有觉察到有些字眼会怎样伤害孩子们的心灵。他们听不见自己的嗓音和语气,不讲究说话的技巧,由于缺乏爱的语言,造成两代人之间无法沟通情感,难免使孩子们幼小的心灵受到伤害。

Some parents are accustomed to using more severe tone to scold children, this tone makes the child feel inferior and unhappy, and with the adult antagonism. They do not know how much of the words they use to talk to their children every day. Just as they wantonly yell at their children, they do not realize how some words will hurt their children’s minds. They can not hear their own voice and tone, they do not pay attention to the skills of speaking. Due to the lack of a language of love, the two generations can not communicate their emotions and it is inevitable that the young children’s hearts will be harmed.