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你是否发现,宝宝自从上了幼儿园后,变得活泼、开朗起来。但另一方面,宝宝和其他小朋友的冲突也成了家常便饭,时不时让您头疼一回。没有哪个家长愿意看到自己的孩子吵架或打架,所以在您眼中冲突肯定不是好事。但心理学家们不这么认为。从某种意义上说,冲突对于孩子的成长利大于弊。著名心理学家皮亚杰认为,冲突,尤其是地位相当的人之间的冲突,是“去自我中心”的关键要素。在冲突的过程中,个体逐渐形成了采纳别人观点的能力,这为人际间的理解与合作奠定了基础,因而冲突对儿童来说是种最有价值的内化的经验。冲突是甜苹果还是酸葡萄,关键还得看作为家长的您怎样帮助孩子对待冲突,并能巧妙地运用冲突,使它成为促进幼儿社会性发展的一种动力。
Did you find that the baby has become lively and cheerful since attending kindergarten? But on the other hand, the conflict between the baby and other children has also become a routine, from time to time give you a headache. No parents are willing to see their children quarrel or fight, so in your eyes the conflict is certainly not a good thing. But psychologists do not think so. In a sense, the conflict outweighs the growth of children. Piaget, a famous psychologist, believes that conflicts, especially those with similar status, are the key elements of “self-centeredness.” In the process of conflict, the individual gradually forms the ability to adopt opinions of others, which lays the foundation for understanding and cooperation among people. Therefore, conflict is the most valuable internalized experience for children. Conflicts are sweet apples or sour grapes, the key must be seen as parents how to help your child to treat conflicts, and clever use of conflict, making it a promotion of social development of children as a driving force.