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这世上,既没有完美的孩子,也没有完美的父母。追求完美,本身就是一种不完美。做完美的父母,是很多父母对自己的期待。然而,我们却常常发现,越是秉持这种理念的父母,子女的教育就越容易出问题。因为对完美的苛求,既会让父母失去自我成长的力量感和自信心,也会让父母不能无条件地接纳孩子,减少孩子的选择,削弱孩子的力量。能让我们有信心和力量来做好父母,恰是从接纳自己的全部,包括不完美开始。接纳自己的不完美,是父母自我成长的起点。当父母总是抱怨自身的状况不够好,比如工作不如意、伴侣不优秀、孩子没出息时,这种负面的自我评价所产生的负面情绪和心理暗示会消耗掉正能量,让自
There is neither perfect children nor perfect parents in this world. The pursuit of perfection is itself an imperfection. To be perfect parents, many parents look forward to their own. However, we often find out that the more parents with such ideas, the more easily their children’s education becomes problematic. Because of the perfect demanding, both parents will lose the power of self-growth and self-confidence, but also allow parents to unconditionally accept the child, reducing the child’s choice, weakening the child’s strength. Let us have the confidence and strength to be good parents, it is from the acceptance of all, including imperfect beginning. To accept their own imperfection is the starting point for parents to grow up. Negative emotions and psychological hints generated by this negative self-assessment consume positive energy when parents are always complaining that their condition is not good enough, such as unhappy work, poor partners and poor children’s self-esteem