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“小孩打醋,直来直去。”是几十年前人们形容半大孩子干事儿的一句经典语言。提到它,我们脑子里马上就会浮现出一幅缓慢的、匮乏时代的生活图景:在连自行车都很少的大街上,一个小孩左手拎着醋瓶子,右手紧紧攥着五分钱。他出了院门,往旁边一拐,进了一个简陋的、门脸不大的副食店,踮起脚,费力地把醋瓶子和五分钱递上去,说一句:“三分钱的醋、二分钱的糖。”然后目不斜视地按原路回家交差。那时候,家长既没把干这活儿和独立意识、独立能力联系在一起,也没考虑到孩子出门会被人拐走或被车撞着。是现在的父母太闲在,超市一转什么都有了,还是打醋这事太小,不够孩子们锻炼独立性的?总之打醋是打醋,培养独立性是培养独立性。生活中许多原本很原始但也很完整的东西被割裂开了。前不久,我们收到了这样一封读者来信:我的孩子今年九岁,上小学三年级。为了安全起见,我们一直接送他上下学。可前些日子。孩子突然对我们说:“以后不用你们接送我了。我们班好多同学都已经自己上下学了。”我和爱人觉得孩子还小,便没有同意。从此他常常对我们表现出不耐烦的样子,有许多事情都不喜欢我们插手了,一副长大当家做主人的模样。可他才九岁呀!不久前,他还在我们的怀里撒娇、耍赖,离长大还远着呢! 究竟什么事孩子能做,什么事不能做?为此,我们到学校做了一个调查,让孩子们先写下自己特别想干的事,然后再把这些事呈现给他们的父母,于是就出现了下面这些有趣的交流:
“Children fight vinegar, go straight.” Is a classical language people described as a half-dozen years ago. When it comes to it, a slow, life-deprived picture emerges in our minds: on a street with few bicycles, a child carries a vinegar bottle on his left hand and a five-cents on his right hand. He went out to the courtyard and turned to the side, into a rudimentary, unpretentious grocery store, tiptoeing, and laboriously handing the vinegar bottle and five cents up and saying: “The third cents of vinegar , Two cents of sugar. ”And then head back to home according to the original cross-stitch. At that time, parents neither linked their efforts to independence and independence, nor did they consider that children going out would be abducted or bumped by cars. Is now too busy parents, the supermarket what turn have a turn, or playing vinegar this is too small, enough children exercise independence? In short, playing vinegar is playing vinegar, independence is to cultivate independence. Many of the original but complete things in life were cut apart. Not long ago, we received a letter from a reader: My child is nine years old and is in third grade. In order to be safe, we have been sending him to school. Can be a few days ago. Suddenly the child said to us: “I will not pick you up and send you back to me, and many of our classmates have gone to school themselves.” "My wife and I did not agree that my child was young. Since then he often showed us impatience, there are many things do not like us to intervene, a grown up to be the masters of the appearance. But he was only nine years old! Not long ago, he was still in our arms like a petulant, shame, away from growing up! What exactly children can do, what can not be done? To this end, we did a survey to school , Let the children write down what they want to do first, and then present the matter to their parents, so the following interesting exchanges occur: