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生活中,有的子女会过分在意父母到底过得好不好、快不快乐。他们在做很多事情之前,都会把父母的喜、怒、哀、乐扛在自己身上。根据我的经验和观察,这种感觉叫作‘愧疚’。如果今天父母不快乐了,我会觉得愧疚,所以我要让他们快乐;如果今天父母过得不好,我会觉得愧疚,所以我一定要让他们过得好。表面上看,这样做是无私的,是为了父母而“牺牲”了自己,但真相是:我们其实是无法忍受自己内在的某种情绪,比如愧疚。你之所以觉得愧疚,是因为你不能够承受父母不高兴带给你的感受,所以你要去控制他们的喜、怒,哀、乐。每到这个时候,
In life, some children will be overly concerned about their parents in the end too well, almost unhappy. Before they do a lot of things, they will bring their parents joy, anger, sadness and music on themselves. According to my experience and observation, this feeling is called ’guilt.’ If parents are not happy today, I will feel guilty, so I will make them happy. If parents are not good today, I will feel guilty, so I will make them good. On the face of it, it is selfless, for the sake of parents and “sacrifices” themselves, but the truth is: we are actually intolerant of some of our inner emotions, such as guilt. The reason why you feel guilty is because you can not afford to feel unhappy with your parents, so you want to control their joy, anger, sadness and happiness. Every time this time,