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有读者写来信,直截了当地问:一夜情后,该不该成为恋人?古代话本小说里,很多故事说的是未婚女子因为思春稀里糊涂上了男人的床,当然,最终的结局不外乎是作者用婚姻让主人公之前的通奸合法化。所以,小说中常有这样的诗句:一番新气象,两个旧东西。但这至少说明了人的一种普遍心理:弥补男女关系问题上的过错,最好的补救办法是让彼此关系合法化。很多女孩子即是如此,一夜情后,认识到了自己的过错,希望弥补,于是,顺理成章的,她想到了与一夜情对象开始恋爱,这样,之前所有的过错可以全部得以掩埋。中国女人都有这样的心态:因爱而性可以是高尚的,因性而性只能是低贱的。当然,与他的恋爱能持续多久发展到什么程度,她不会太在乎,她在乎的是,自己能不能通过恋爱关系洗清一夜情的污点。
A reader wrote a letter, straightforward to ask: after one-night stand, should not become a lover? In the ancient calligraphy novels, many stories that are unmarried women because Si Si wandering confused on the man’s bed, of course, the ultimate outcome is nothing more than the author Use marriage to legalize adultery before the hero. Therefore, the novel often have such verses: a new look, two old things. But this at least illustrates one of the general psychological aspects of man: the remedy for mistakes made in the relations between men and women is that the best remedy is to legalize each other’s relations. That is why many girls, after one-night stand, realized their own fault and wanted to make up for it. So, as a matter of course, she came to love falling in love with one-night stands, so that all previous mistakes could be buried. Chinese women have such a mentality: because of love and sexuality can be noble, because of sexuality can only be cheap. Of course, with his love to how long to develop to what extent, she will not care too much, she cares whether he can clear the one-night stand by love relationships.