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人际关系上出现了问题,朋友间出现缝隙。许多人想得更多的是对方的不对,对方的习惯、修养等有缺陷。现在我们很多人都遇到这样的问题,并在认定是他人过错这样思考的圈圈里打转。这是一个普遍存在的问题,早在20世纪50年代,就有专家认识到这个问题并着手研究。唐·克利夫顿是美国心理学的教授,当时他发现一个重要问题:心理学界所关注的焦点只有一个,那就是大众身上聚集了哪些毛病,而不是他们都有什么优点?于是在过去50多年里,唐和他的同事们访谈了数百万人,不是了解他们的欠缺,而是了解他们的优点。
There is a problem in the interpersonal relationship, there is a gap between my friends. Many people think more of each other’s wrong, the other’s habits, self-cultivation and other flaws. Now many of us have encountered such problems and are spinning around the lines of thinking that others think fault. This is a ubiquitous problem. As early as the 1950s, some experts realized the problem and started to study it. Don Clifton was a professor of psychology in the United States when he discovered an important issue: the focus of psychology is only one, that is, what the problems of mass gathered, rather than what are the advantages of them? So in the past 50 years In the interview, Tang and his colleagues interviewed millions of people not to understand their deficiencies but to understand their strengths.