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相比于“鹰爸”的特训、“狼爸”“虎妈”的体罚,亲妈“诈死”给予的虽然不是身体上的伤害,却是心灵上的痛苦。“不是亲妈”这句话对于一个孩子的伤害,不是当事人注定很难感受到。由依赖变为独立,骄娇之气消失殆尽,由此衍生出另外一种成长路径,并取得了理想中的效果;但孩子内心的变化、心中的阴影,却绝非一句“实情”就能理解。“诈死”的得意表情之下,其实并无值得炫耀之处,现在谈论其方法的正确性,其实也未免有失偏颇。即便从最功利的标准来说,“成家立业,事业有成”也并不能完全作为成功的依据。知道实情之后的孩子将如何面对?其在13年谎言中造就的那点坚强是否会崩塌?母女之间由此形成的割裂能否缝合?双方都很难预料。自然,对于其他母亲来说,这样的方法不可复制,也不能复制。毋庸置疑,亲妈“诈死”违背了基本的人性,使母女之间原本血浓于水
Compared to the “Eagle Dad” special training, “Wolf”, “Tiger Mom” corporal punishment, pro-mother “Fraudulent ” given though not physical injury, but it is spiritual pain. “Not a mother” phrase for a child’s injury, not the parties are doomed to feel it hard. From dependency to independence, arrogance of the gas disappeared, resulting in another growth path, and achieved the desired effect; but the changes in the child’s heart, the heart of the shadow, but by no means a “truth” “Can understand. In fact, there is nothing worth showing off. Now it is quite biased to talk about the correctness of the method. Even from the most utilitarian standards, ”getting married, promising careers“ can not be entirely a basis for success. How does the child know what it’s like to face? Will the strong point it created in a 13-year lie break down? Can the suture formed between mother and daughter be sewn up? It is hard for both sides to predict. Naturally, for other mothers, such methods can not be copied nor copied. Undoubtedly, the pro-mother ”Fraudulent death " runs counter to the basic human nature, so that the original blood between mother and daughter in the water