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做父母的谁不希望自己的子女成才?可有些家长为培养孩子倾注了全部心血,孩子的表现却仍然平平。是孩子笨还是家长做得不够?我说都不是。凡事皆有个度,对孩子的教育也是如此。许多父母望子成龙心切,结果却走向过度教育这个极端。过度教育,指对孩子的管理、干预、限制、约束过多,或对孩子要求过高,让孩子接受不适合他们心理、生理发展水平的教育。这一般有两种情况。在溺爱型的家庭中,家长在生活上过分疼爱孩子,在教育上要求孩子按家长的意志去做,很少照顾孩子的自身特点。孩子娇生惯养,倔强、任性、依赖性强,在家像条“龙”,在外像条“虫”。在专制型家庭中,家长教育孩子主动认真,但不懂教育方法,对孩子过分严厉,过分干涉。孩子在家长面前缩手缩脚或言行不一,像条“虫”,在外
Parents who do not want their children to become talented? Some parents to devote all their efforts to train children, the child’s performance is still mediocre. Children are stupid or parents do not do enough? I say not. Everything has a degree of education for children as well. Many parents are eager for success, but the result is toward the extreme of excessive education. Overexposure refers to the management, intervention, restriction, restraint, or excessive demands placed on children, so that children can receive education that is inappropriate for their psychological and physical development. This generally has two situations. In spoiled families, parents over-love children in their daily lives, demanding their children to do their education according to their parents’ wills and rarely taking care of their own characteristics. Children spoiled, stubborn, self-willed, dependent, at home, like the “dragon”, the outlines of “insects.” In autocratic families, parents educate their children to take the initiative seriously, but they do not understand the methods of education and overly harsh over the children and interfere excessively. Children in front of parents shrink their hands or words and deeds, like a “bug”, outside